What do shy guys like

They pay attention to the little details about you. They may ask you questions because they want to know you better. Talk to them about anything, show them your interest by touching their shoulder, or telling a joke. What signs do you know to tell if a shy guy likes you?

Are you a shy person? What did you think of my list? Please tell us your experiences and tips in the comment section below and share this article! I was upset about the loss of a family member and my guy friend saw me and pulled up in his truck, pulled over got out and asked me if I was okay then we talked for awhile and he consoled me by rubbing my upper arm and shoulder a few times. Then patted me on my back. He always seems no matter what he always seem to be upbeat and never lets anything bother him.

I like him as a friend and maybe more, but I cannot tell if he was just being a good friend or that he likes me but is just too shy to let me know?! Or is just not interested in me at all in that way! I'm in high school and there is one guy in the same "group guidance". I think he's cool and everything. I think I like him, but I don't know does he like me. There is only few signs I noticed about him.

From your list, that I picked up, 1,3,6,9,16,20, I sound SO creepy, but I would just love to know what I could say to him or keep some small-talk going?

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Learn more. He usually smiles when you enter the room 2. He tries to help you out 2. He blushes when you are near 2. He shares things about himself 2. He acts weird when you flirt with other guys 2. He fidgets around you 2. He pays attention to the little things about you 2.

It seems like he only has eyes for you 2. He cares about you 2. He touches you lightly 2. He tries to connect with your friends 2. He follows you on social media 2. His friends tease him when you see them 2. He tries to make eye contact 2. He sends you mixed signals 2. How do you know if a shy guy likes you without talking? How do you get a shy guy to like you? What do shy guys do when they like a girl? How do shy guys act around their crush? Over the years several women have written me to tell me reading this site has helped them understand the actions of a shy guy they were pursuing.

With that in mind I thought I'd try to be even more helpful and write a whole article outlining what it's like to be a man who's really shy and inexperienced with women. At the end I give a few thoughts on what to do if there's a shy guy in your life you're interested in. Combined, the points below describe a guy who's really, really inhibited and awkward around women.

Not all shy men deal with issues that intense or will have every characteristic apply to them. As with all the other writing on this site, the points here are from a mix of my own experience and accounts I've come across of how shy men say they think.

I also wrote a follow up to this article on some of the unique issues shy women struggle with. I'll break this down further below, but their central problem is that they're just really anxious , scared, and inhibited around women. Almost all men get a little nervous when they have to ask a woman out, make a move to kiss her, or even talk to her for the first time.

But when a guy is really shy his nervousness is at a level where it usually prevents him from doing any of those things. It's legitimately strong, not something where they can just take a deep breath and push through.

Sometimes this nervousness shows up as the physical symptoms of anxiety. At other times it's more of a powerful, paralyzing hesitation. Like they know how they want to act, but it's like an invisible force field is preventing them from doing so. This could mean feeling too anxious to start a conversation with an attractive stranger they've just noticed at a party.

It can also be longer term. Some shy guys, especially younger ones, have had a crush on someone for years and have never worked up the nerve to talk to her. The occasional time that someone they fancy talks to them first they often get too flustered, and the resulting brief conversation consists of some stuttered half-coherent answers on their part.

That's not to say a shy guy won't sometimes be able to chat to someone he's into, but it's relatively rare. Sometimes they just won't get nervous around her for whatever mysterious reason. At other time they can force themselves to do it, but they're a total mess inside the whole time. One problem that can plague shyer guys is that sometimes their nervousness doesn't appear when they first meet a woman, but comes back to bite them soon after.

Initially they manage to come off as calm and charming and make a good impression, but then fall apart when the stakes get higher.

The reason is that when they first run into that woman she's new and they haven't had time to overthink things and develop any nervous feelings for her. They'll come away from the interaction feeling excited and optimistic about where things may lead. However, now they have a reason to feel pressured and jittery around her, and that's exactly what happens.

The scenario then goes in one of the following directions: He's too nervous to talk to her again He does talk to her, but is such a withdrawn, obvious wreck that she's not interested He talks to her, but is too nervous to be himself, ends up acting like a goofball, and shoots himself in the foot He's so nervous that at that immediate moment escaping the anxious symptoms takes precedence over anything else, and he acts rude, odd, aloof to purposely sabotage his chance.

This 'setting them up, but not following through' scenario can happen to different degrees. The first is when a guy simply sees a woman around a few times and makes confident eye contact with her.

She seems attracted and intrigued and like she's waiting for him to approach her. He sees this, gets nervous, and never conjures up the guts to speak to her. Another variation is when a guy runs into a woman, say because he randomly sits beside her in a lecture, chats to her for a bit, and comes off well.

She seems interested. Enter the pressure. He can't work up the nerve to talk to her another time. A third scenario might be something more drawn-out, like a guy has a few conversations with a woman he never really thought of as more than someone friendly to talk to. He notices she seems like she's becoming attracted to him, and he blows things soon after. Sometimes a guy will be able to talk to a woman he's interested in, often because the circumstances put them together so the onus wasn't on him to approach anyone.

If he likes someone he'll often feel too nervous to ask her out and face the awkwardness and risk of rejection that entails. He may never invite her on a date, or put it off so long that by the time he does the moment has passed. Even with all of the above stacked against him, a shyer, inexperienced guy will sometimes have enough things go his way that he'll end up in a position where he's alone with a woman and has a chance to "make a move" e.

Unsurprisingly, they're really nervous and hesitant about this as well. Same general discomfort and risk of rejection. He may have a blatant, all-systems-go opportunity where the woman is clearly interested, but he can't manage to go through with it. There he is, sitting on a couch watching a movie with his date when the credits start to roll. She turns to face him, looking into his eyes expectantly. He returns her gaze and pauses for a moment, and a little longer, and a bit longer still Afterward he's kicking himself for being so spineless.

He was trying to work up the nerve to kiss her all evening, and kept wondering if now was the right time to do it, but in the end he couldn't pull the trigger. One key fear guys have in this situation if they're sexually inexperienced is that their embarrassing secret will be outed, and they'll be humiliated. They may think something like, "I've never kissed a woman. I don't know what I'm doing. What if she can tell I've never done this before?

And when you're really inexperienced yourself it seems that's pretty much every woman. Part of this comes from a belief that no woman would be interested in a shy guy if she's had already had a few boyfriends. It also goes back to that point I mentioned in the last paragraph about them fearing their inexperience being outed. This hinders shy men in two ways. First, they'll often rule out more-obviously experienced women as prospects.

Too scary. Only harmless, innocent-seeming women don't arouse their fears. But there are only so many women out there who are just as shy and inexperienced as them, so it really cuts down their possibilities, and makes them put that much more pressure on themselves when they do find one who fits the description.

Secondly, if he's into a woman, and she seems into him, and she says something that draws attention to her comparatively higher level of experience e.

She seems a lot more daunting now. And they figure, why would she want him? She has experience, he doesn't. It'd never work out. With time many anxious guys can slowly face their fears and gain enough experience with the opposite sex that they're not as held back by their anxiety as they used to be.

They can start dating like everyone else. However, they may always have a tougher time of it than some men. They're often late bloomers, since their nerves and general social awkwardness kept them from getting into the dating game as early as everyone else. Article continues below SPONSORED Free training: "How to double your social confidence in 5 minutes" On the link below you'll find a training series focused on how to feel at ease socially, even if you tend to overthink today.

Do you ever walk into a room and catch a little sparkle in his eyes when he spots you? You may also find him smiling from ear to ear for no reason. If you want to know if this shy man really likes you, then make sure you pay attention to his looming presence around your favorite spots. Most shy guys have their circle of friends with whom they get to be themselves without holding back. They talk more and are generally more expressive with those people, whether indoors or out in public.

However, he could be cracking them up real hard or roaring with laughter then once you enter, it seems like he lost his voice. So make sure you pay attention to how his friends treat you, you might just get your answer from them. You may find them exchanging knowing glances when you are around, or they continue to bring their friend up while he blushingly shushes them.

Perhaps one of them used to flirt with you but stopped and is now more polite than ever. The highest you ever get when you see each other at the coffee shop is a staring contest or a hello. However, over the phone, conversations between you really flow. The confidence that being behind a screen gives can be even more effective than the one he gets when his friends are around, you see.

At this point, make sure you let him know you have noticed this phenomenon. A shy guy may not tell you straight up that he really likes you, but his actions can say plenty. Shy people tend to avoid confrontation and may take it to the point of being unable to say no when someone asks for their help.

You can tell if a shy guy really enjoys doing things for you. You may have heard that shy guys are great listeners when they are interested in you. If he gives you the impression that you can come to him whenever you need someone to talk to, that guy cherishes you. You may not be the most outgoing person in your group but still be way ahead of this guy in terms of being social. If he attends a party you invited him to and actually spends time with you there instead of on his phone, then that might be a sign this shy guy likes you.

Shy really people process things deeply, and it shows in the way they think. Therefore, when he gets the chance, he asks a lot of questions. Sometimes even singling you out among others. This is all in a bid to really get to know you down to what makes you tick. What do you think makes guys do that if not love?

One way or the other, social media has a way of bringing people together. It may not mean he wants you to have his kids yet, but linking up online is indicative of his interest in getting to know you better, at the very least. This gives him an advantage over men who try to impress every woman they meet with the same moves. He probably likes you if he started working out or dressing better after he heard what you said. Sometimes all you need to know if a shy guy likes you is to compare his treatment of you to other ladies.

Or he likes to stare a lot at pretty people. Try this theory out next time he hangs with you and your female friends in a random place like a restaurant. And that brings me to this point because who needs to talk when his body is full of clues?

Does he blush or stutter when he attempts to talk to you without looking in your eyes? More often than not, when you like someone, being in harmony with them means more to you than being right. Though everyone likes to be appreciated, quiet people can act a little awkward when someone they like pays them a compliment.

You might even notice him looking visibly uncomfortable if what you say catches him off guard. He might just be holding on until he can tell you feel the same. They may listen to all your problems without shaking but draw the line when it comes to boy trouble.

If you find him turning green with jealousy when you mention a date you went on or gets upset when you flirt with others, he likes you. Unfortunately, his need to please you may cause him to ride it out and never say anything about how seeing you with another person truly makes him feel.